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The Harrill Self-Esteem Inventory
Rate yourself on each with a scale of 0 to 4 based upon your
current thoughts, feelings, and behaviors:
0 = I never think, feel, or behave this way.
1 = I do less than half the time.
2 = I do 50% of the time.
3 = I do more than half the time.
4 = I always think, feel, or behave this way.
SCORE SELF-ESTEEM STATEMENTS
_____ 1. I like and accept myself right now, today, even though I want to make changes in
myself, accepting that I am not perfect.
_____ 2. I am worthy simply for who I am, not what I do. I do not have to earn my worthiness.
_____ 3. I get my needs met before meeting the wants of others. I balance giving and receiving.
_____ 4. I easily release negative feelings when other people blame or criticize me. I realize
I cannot control what other people think about me, so I focus on living my life with
integrity and to the best of my abilities.
_____ 5. I always tell myself the truth about what I am feeling.
_____ 6. I am incomparable and stop comparing myself with other people.
_____ 7. I feel of equal value to other people, regardless of my performance, looks, IQ,
achievements, or possessions.
_____ 8.I am my own authority and take full responsibility for my choices, thoughts,
perceptions, feelings, emotions, reactions, and actions. I do not give others
credit or blame for how I am doing.
_____ 9. I learn and grow from my mistakes rather than deny them or use them to confirm
my unworthiness.
_____ 10. I stop my critical self-talk and replace it with a nurturing, kind, encouraging voice.
_____ 11. I love, respect, and honor myself.
_____ 12. I practice unconditional love and forgiveness daily.
_____ 13. I accept other people as they are, even when they do not meet my expectations
with their behaviors and beliefs.
_____ 14. I am not responsible for anyone else’s actions, needs, thoughts, moods, or feelings,
only for my own.
_____ 15. I feel my own feelings and think my own thoughts, even when those around me
think or feel differently.
_____ 16. I stop using “shoulds” and “oughts,” which are value judgments that put me
(or others) down. (It is irrelevant what I should have done or should do. It is more
important to know what I am willing and not willing to do and which consequences
I am willing to pay.)
_____ 17. I am responsible for changing what I do not like in my life. I face my fears and
insecurities, taking appropriate steps to heal and grow.
_____ 18. I forgive myself and others for making mistakes and being unaware.
_____ 19. I do not dominate others or allow others to dominate me.
_____ 20. I find meaning and have purpose in my life. I believe my life counts.
_____ 21. I have good physical and emotional boundaries with others.
_____ 22. I take care of myself on all levels: physical, social, emotional, mental, and spiritual.
_____ 23. I desire to make a contribution to the world. I develop and share my talents and
interests with others.
_____ 24. I am a person of my word and follow through on the things I commit to do.
_____ 25. I spend quality time with myself on a regular basis.
_____ 26. I deserve love and happiness.
_____ 27. I get my warm and loving feelings about myself from within myself and do not
depend on others to do this for me.
_____ 28. I am lovable.
_____ 29. I release unreal expectations for myself and others.
_____ 30. I choose to love and respect all human beings regardless of their beliefs and
actions, whether or not I have a personal relationship with them.
This is not a test. Neither is it a precise measure of self-esteem. Its purpose is to identify beliefs affecting self-esteem that may need modifying. Place no judgments on your score. Consider taking
the inventory every six months to gauge your progress. Low numbers indicate beliefs and patterns
that may be blocking you from loving, accepting, and feeling good about yourself.
Each of these statements presents a wonderful daily reflection opportunity. A good way
to stay “tuned in” and “tuned up” is to take one statement a day, like a vitamin for you mind,
to ponder its special meaning for you.
Each statement can be used as an affirmation to heal limiting beliefs. Repeating them to
yourself often, even out loud, helps you change how you feel.
Use this inventory to help you understand other people, too. Recognizing that someone
has a self-esteem problem makes it easier to have compassion and practice forgiveness.
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ACE THAT INTERVIEW
Interview Tips
Understanding how to best prepare for and follow up on inter- views is critical to your career success. At different times in your life, you may interview with a teacher or professor, a prospective employer, a supervisor, or a promotion or tenure committee. Just as having an excellent resumé is vital for opening the door, inter- viewing skills are critical for putting your best foot forward and seizing the opportunity to clearly articulate why you are the best person for the job.
Be Prepared
Successful interviews are the result of good preparation. Proper preparation will give you the information you need, and, more importantly, the confidence to succeed.
**Know Your Company ** MOST IMPORTANT
Your ability to convince an employer that you understand and are interested in their field is vitally important. Show that you have knowledge of the company and the industry. What products or services does the company offer? How is it doing? What is the competition? Demonstrate your understanding of the company: “I understand that your website was rated number one in your industry. Your company seems to be to be leader in this area, according to Business Week.”
Find Out About Position Before Interview
Ask the personnel office to send you a job description. Use this information to determine what the company is looking for in applicants for the position. You will likely be asked the common question, “Why are you interested in this job?” Be prepared to answer with a reference to the company. A sample answer: “Your store has opened up several new branches in the last two years, so I believe that there is great opportunity in your organization. I also feel that I have the necessary skills and personal qualities to make a contribution.”